I dislike drama, and I am not a mind reader. These things sadly do not work in my favour in this fandom some days.
In short, if you are a friend of mine, please recall the following:
1) If I do something to piss you off/upset you, please let me know. If it is something I can fix, apologize for, explain, or be aware not to do in the future: I WILL.
~In addition to this, I recommend doing so by telling me privately and calmly. I don't take attacks well, and it never hurts to be nice and polite. I'll respond to ultimatums by usually shrugging and saying 'bye'.
2) My friends do not need to be your friends. Your friends are not necessarily my friends. Regardless of your beef with them, if I like them, I like them. You're not required to do so. That said: I really, really don't want to hear you trashing my friends while I'm around. Just no, ok?
~ I take pictures of 'cool' people, yes. If you want to use me to get 'close' to them, not cool. Especially if I'm doing a shoot: I'm working.At least learn to be subtle or something. I don't mind introducing you: I remember going gaga over 'the cool crowd' (Which was the 'they do awesome costumes of things I like' crowd back in the day) when I was cosplaying and freaking out at the chance to meet them in person. (I totally fangirled at Yaya at Ohayo this year). But they're normal people and you can say hello. They're nice- and if you're a decent human being they'll probably like you.
In short: I am not your 'in' to the cool crowd. I'm not even sure where the cool crowd sits. This isn't high school: I don't want to hear you bitch about people I know and like. Or just know.
3) I really dislike drinking. I don't like you when you're drunk. I don't care how happy it makes you or how much fun you're having- I don't like you drunk. Any of you. Ever.
Sorry.
~ This doesn't mean you shouldn't drink, or do whatever the hell you want at a con. It does mean I want nothing to do with you when you're drunk, nothing personal. It also means I'll jokingly complain about my friends who do drink because I don't understand it. Since many of you also joke about it, I figure this is fair game. Again, I don't care what you do, because it's your choice to do so. I simply want no part of it.
There's been a lot of stress and drama and headaches going through my list over this week, and I'm admittedly tired of seeing vague posts from people and not being certain if I've done something wrong or if it has nothing to do with me. (I'm a worrywort, what can I say). I want to stay out of the mess but the spillover seems to be creeping up, and I see the potential for future issues looming. Hence, post.
If you ever need to speak to me privately, email me or use a LJ filter. They work wonders. I'll respond.
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Now to try to settle an upset stomach and figure out Ad Astra's meeting tomorrow. Fo, can you call a bit later? Say 11:30? if it's too late for you it's cool though.
In short, if you are a friend of mine, please recall the following:
1) If I do something to piss you off/upset you, please let me know. If it is something I can fix, apologize for, explain, or be aware not to do in the future: I WILL.
~In addition to this, I recommend doing so by telling me privately and calmly. I don't take attacks well, and it never hurts to be nice and polite. I'll respond to ultimatums by usually shrugging and saying 'bye'.
2) My friends do not need to be your friends. Your friends are not necessarily my friends. Regardless of your beef with them, if I like them, I like them. You're not required to do so. That said: I really, really don't want to hear you trashing my friends while I'm around. Just no, ok?
~ I take pictures of 'cool' people, yes. If you want to use me to get 'close' to them, not cool. Especially if I'm doing a shoot: I'm working.
In short: I am not your 'in' to the cool crowd. I'm not even sure where the cool crowd sits. This isn't high school: I don't want to hear you bitch about people I know and like. Or just know.
3) I really dislike drinking. I don't like you when you're drunk. I don't care how happy it makes you or how much fun you're having- I don't like you drunk. Any of you. Ever.
Sorry.
~ This doesn't mean you shouldn't drink, or do whatever the hell you want at a con. It does mean I want nothing to do with you when you're drunk, nothing personal. It also means I'll jokingly complain about my friends who do drink because I don't understand it. Since many of you also joke about it, I figure this is fair game. Again, I don't care what you do, because it's your choice to do so. I simply want no part of it.
There's been a lot of stress and drama and headaches going through my list over this week, and I'm admittedly tired of seeing vague posts from people and not being certain if I've done something wrong or if it has nothing to do with me. (I'm a worrywort, what can I say). I want to stay out of the mess but the spillover seems to be creeping up, and I see the potential for future issues looming. Hence, post.
If you ever need to speak to me privately, email me or use a LJ filter. They work wonders. I'll respond.
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Now to try to settle an upset stomach and figure out Ad Astra's meeting tomorrow. Fo, can you call a bit later? Say 11:30? if it's too late for you it's cool though.
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